A few months ago, I spent the day chatting about penises to the filmmaker Lawrence Barraclough for a documentary he was making. In this, his follow-up film to the critically acclaimed My Penis And I, Lawrence was hoping to find out if penis size was an issue for other men - like it had been for him - and if so, why men don't talk about that openly. We had a great time chatting about this topic; questioning the impact pornography has on men, the effects of peer-group pressure, and why society seems so focused on the male phallus.
Sadly - as often happens with telly - my bits didn't make the final edit (though you can see some of the deleted scenes, including my talking about the pros and cons of cock size, here); but the finished version of the film is, I think, brilliant and brave and funny and thought-provoking and everything a good documentary should be.
People may laugh about the topic of cock size, blokes may shrug it off, but in reality, it appears men are under immense pressure to conform to some 'ideal', not just in their sexual performance, but in something they cannot get better at with practice: the size of their penis. In his first film, Lawrence struggled with his own lack of self-worth due to the size of his dick and in this film he courageously covers similar ground by using his experience as an example to find out if other men feel the same way about their cocks as he once did about his own.
Featuring in the film is a large exhibition of penis photographs, many of which were anonymously sent in by this blog's readers. (If you were one of those that "snapped your chap", look closely and you may even get to see your own cock on screen. How cool is that?) The objective of this display was to get men to view other real (but non-porn) penises, show them that cocks come in all shapes and sizes and initiate debate about them - and it is wonderful to see the men in the film talking on this subject. It also seems to have produced a further positive effect: Lawrence is now working towards putting these (and more) shots into a book. You can send in photos of your penis to add to this collection here.
I'm sure there are folks out there that would say, "Why do we need to talk about penises?" and my reply would be, "Because there are a lot of men out there for whom much of their insecurity - wrongly - is focused on their penis and this film might help them to feel better about themselves. And a society in which men can express their (often repressed) feelings and have them validated by other men is a healthy one." It really is a great film: I highly recommend everyone watch it.