"...women's desire for male approval - be that of how we look, how we have sex or how we love - is debilitating, but may be inescapable because of how forcefully and consistently it is reinforced by the structures around us, even when it is not by men themselves. So long as the withdrawal of male approval is used as punishment for women's successes - consider the number of female politicians deemed unattractive - the notion that a woman is completed rather than complemented by the presence of a man in her life is a hard one to shake."
Yup; my point entirely.